tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-73675985807806306.post2688003152570337098..comments2023-05-09T04:12:35.516-07:00Comments on lifeofaqueergirl: EthicsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17855611372991658018noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-73675985807806306.post-35461687109472916962012-04-20T22:35:03.582-07:002012-04-20T22:35:03.582-07:00You are the sweetest and in not giving advice, you...You are the sweetest and in not giving advice, you gave good advice. :) So thank you I just needed someone to sort my head for me in a way. I have known the difference between listening and hearing, but I don't think I applied it to this situation, and maybe I need to. I think I've been not connecting with people's problems, which may be the best help I can give. Thanks again. :)sekulsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14136737555669753399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-73675985807806306.post-37176435173997171202012-04-20T12:22:27.353-07:002012-04-20T12:22:27.353-07:00I know a little bit of the trickiness of the situa...I know a little bit of the trickiness of the situation you're in; I used to be one of those people who would get phone calls at like 3am from someone who was having a rough time, simply because I was open and a listener and a leader, and though I never claim to have it together I tend to have peace with what I'm given.<br /><br />I have no advice to give, haha. I think no matter who, whether an acquaintance or a close friend, when that person confides in you with a problem he or she has, we need to listen, and not just listen but also *hear* that person. Personally I know that when someone goes beyond just listening and actually tries to empathize, it goes a long way, even more so than whatever advice could be given.<br /><br />I agree with you, that unless we are given the role of mediator or counselor or something we need to be careful not to try to play that role. There are professionals here at this school who have those titles and can better handle the trickier situations, even though some of them may be interns or whatever.<br /><br />At the same time, life is messy. People are messy. And there's beauty in that. Deep, lasting relationships of all sorts can come from entering into someone's mess, as can many other sorts of good effects. It's the question of whether or not we are available and up for entering that person's mess that we have to answer. And we can't answer everyone's call.<br /><br />Just my ramblings. ^__^Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14162304282415956505noreply@blogger.com